Currently Reading: The Happiness Project

Start Date: 16 December 2013
Title: The Happiness Project - Or, Why I Spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have More Fun
Author: Gretchen Rubin
Genre: Non-fiction

Gretchen, a woman who is not inherently unhappy -- in fact, life has treated her pretty well (she has her dream husband, two beautiful daughters, left her job as a lawyer to become a writer, has published several books) -- endeavors to become happier.  Happier, because "not inherently unhappy" doesn't quite describe her state.  She seems pretty happy for the most part.  It isn't a self-help exercise for her (nor is the book a self-help book), but a challenge to make herself better.  Even the happiest among us do things, think things, and say things that may make us frustrated, regretful, and displeased with ourselves, and even the happiest among us feel unhappy at times.  It seems as though Gretchen's aim with her project was to make small changes in her life that will allow her to react to situations in more productive ways, be more understanding and patient with others, and be more understanding and patient with herself.

I identify greatly with Gretchen so far (I'm only about a month-and-a-half into the book which chronicles a year of this project) -- she is a very clear Type A personality, enjoying cleanliness and neatness, routines, receiving praise for tasks and accomplishments, and having a systematic approach to...everything.  If I were to start a Happiness Project, I am almost certain I would have approached it in the same way as she does.  She has laid out eleven major goals to focus on, one for each month of the year, that she believes will lead to increased happiness.  The twelfth month she plans to spend implementing all eleven as best she can.  Each goal has several clearly stated elements which Gretchen gives herself a check-mark or an X for at the end of each day, depending on whether or not she practiced each elements.

I could probably read this whole book in one sitting, but I think I need to take it relatively slowly.  It inspired me last night to clean out my closet and dresser, and today is inspiring new things in me.  I don't believe I have the time and energy to create and lay out my own year-long Happiness project at the moment, but Gretchen's has given me a few ideas already for easy ways to improve my surroundings and my relation to those surrounding me which will provide me with greater rewards.

My favorite quotation from the book, so far, actually is quoted by Gretchen from William James, a philosopher and psychologist.  James says, "Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; any by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not." (pg. 36)

Happily,
A.